Relationships?
Hi. I have a question regarding relationships.
I am currently feeling very very annoyed and particularly jealous of some of my non-TCK friends. They have had relationships for like 2 years with the same person, something which I have yet to experience.
I have spent some time feeling down and contemplating this “problem” if I can call it that way. I feel like this is due, in part, to my TCK experience. According to what my “ex-s” (if I can call em that), I tend to be clingy whenever I meet someone that I like and I start having a relationship with (they say I send too many SMSs and IM messages, asking them how they are, what are you doing, etc.)
From my contemplation period, I have come to the conclusion that since I have yet to have a long-term relationship, and that relationships are hard to come by for me, especially since I (or the ones I meet) tend to leave after a certain period of time, whenever I meet someone I really like, I want to stick to them like glue. And this seems to “repel” potential partners…
I have really loved my life so far, being a diplomat brat and all, don’t get me wrong. But I really want this part of me to change.
I would just like to have your two cents on this topic. Thanks =)
June 30th, 2008 at 6:27 am
haha i am commitment phobe too! so glad to see that other TCKs admit it too hahaha.
Um…i give up on relationship for life.
I guess it’s because I’ve always find friendship lasting longer. and for a TCk, the last thing I need is something that doesn’t last.
I mean I’ve only known my best friend for like 4 months and then I left. I’ve never seen her again but nothing’s changed.
See if relationship would ever work out that well… After all friendship is not exclusive, and the last thing A TCK needs is something exclusive…
Unless the relationship is open though. I think that would work quite well for TCKs. Except too many people feel too insecure to go that way…
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December 17th, 2008 at 3:01 am
Funny enough, I’ve been both…at the same time even! Of the Very few post-elem school relationships I’ve had, all have lasted multiple years. My situation may have been unique because I only really got clingy because 1) I didn’t feel that anyone Truely wanted to be with me; and 2) life in general was going down hill at the time. Basically my troubles were public school instigated self esteem issues. Once you find your self worth, then you’ll find things work more in your favor and the needyness may drop off. Either way, find out Why you’re being clingy and fix that, one problem at a time.
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