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The differences in the view of marriage in different cultures?
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It is interesting to note the differences in the view of marriage in different cultures.
In the Western world, marriage does not have the sense of commitment that it used to. Personally I think this is because of the emphasis on feelings and love. For many people they believe that marriage involves the love that involves fancying someone or being attracted to them only. So when these feelings go they move on to the next partner.
Some cultures a man can have more than one wife. Something you would be put in jail for in the West. Yep you have multiple wives and secretly some of these wives have “boyfriends”. But the emphasis is on a family unit where the husband provides for the wives. The head wife is the first wife. The marriage is arranged when the girl is in her early teens and after the marriage the girl lives with her parents until she is old enough to go and live with her husband.
So here we have a completely different approach to marriage, not one based on love but based on commitment and tradition. No fairy tale wedding, not based on feelings. So which is right or better?
Consider this conversation between a westerner and someone in a multi-wife culture.
“I think it is wrong for you to have more than one wife!”
“I care for and love my wives. Having more than one wife means that if someone is ill, there is somebody else to look after them. Anyway your culture is bad.”
“Why is that?”
“You have more than one wife, you divorce one and get another. At least we look after our wives and don’t discard them like you do in your culture!”
Now bear in mind, I am not saying that one culture is right or wrong, rather that often their is a misconception about what marriage should be and what the ideal marriage can be. Hopefully this thread will give people an open mind when they look at condemning other cultures for the way they do things without considering that their own culture has faults too.
Edited addition:
What sort of traditions in marriage have you come across?
How do you feel about them? Right, wrong or neither?
Is the issue of arranged marriage something that you have had experience with?
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July 30th, 2008 at 6:14 pm
BTW…none of us on here (to my knowledge) have forcibly removed anyone from a polygamous union nor impeded on another’s culture rights to practise it so in turn, how does having a perspective that is not pro-polygamy REALLY equate with judgement or self-righteousness in your eyes? Everyone judges everyone. Every single person on this website has judged a culture/country/there own family members disparagingly! That is one of the mainstays of this website - people’s gripes and issues with cultures/countries and other people! We experience intolerance and in turn are intolerant of other people not having OUR experience! In a sense we TCK/CCK are kinda oxymoronic really
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