How to tell your Non-TCK friends that you’re moving and won’t see them again?
Hey guys,
Have you ever made good friends with a non TCK? Of course you all have, but how do you go about handling telling them that you are moving and well don’t know when you will see them again?
I am currently in the university in Ohio but am moving to study in Italy for a while and my best friend at school in Wisconsin doesn’t know how to handle me leaving. I haven’t seen him since december and I have a feeling the next time I will see him will be next december, if then.
But anyway… I told him last night over the phone and he was kind of a mess and begging me to stay but I can’t really pass up this opportunity.
Last summer we traveled around Europe and stayed with my friends I and family I have there and he got a really good glimpse of how mobile my like has been, I think. I showed him old houses and places that I used to hang out and it was amazing because for the first time I was able to share my growing up with someone other than my brother. Any way I figured that would make him more able to understand why moving is not such a huge thing, but apparently it didn’t…
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3 Comments to “How to tell your Non-TCK friends that you’re moving and won’t see them again?”
July 21st, 2008 at 3:20 am
You might remind him that he can come visit you in Italy. We’re not living in the age where you have to spend your life’s savings to get a ticket aboard the economy class on the Titanic anymore.
But don’t say it like that :p Just make it clear that you would love to have him visit you.
“You must come visit me. I’d really like you to.”
And after you move you can keep saying:
“So when are you going to come visit me?”
You on the other hand shouldn’t expect him to visit you but you should keep saying this to him to reassure him.
I’ve found that in a lot of cases people who say they’re going to visit you never do, but in some cases they surprise you and they do.
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July 21st, 2008 at 9:57 am
just remind them that…the world is indeed very small. Just don’t worry. haha
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July 22nd, 2008 at 12:24 am
I know what you mean. I had to leave my best friend last year and we practically lived at each other’s houses while I was there. Even if it ends up being impossible to have him visit you. you can make phone and email, and instant messaging work. With effort you’ll be just as close when you see him nexttime.
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