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Do you think TCKs are arrogant? (poll)

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Are TCKs arrogant?

I think it’s fairly common knowledge that some TCKs are arrogant, or are perceived as arrogant by others. There is also the problem of elitism, narrow-mindedness and self-righteousness.

We all know many TCKs who are open-minded, but there are some who are the complete opposite!

So why do you think this happen? Where does it come from? Let’s hear your opinion.

Do you think TCKs are arrogant?

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March 31, 2008 | Filed Under General Forum, Research 

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23 Responses to “Do you think TCKs are arrogant? (poll)”

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    Marie Says:
    April 3rd, 2008 at 1:29 am

    Kristina, I think you’re right on point.

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    Margie Says:
    April 3rd, 2008 at 1:32 pm

    Sticking my “neck” into the discussion here…

    Having lived in the US since 1976, I have observed that arrogance is very abundant. That abundance is shown very much in the teen-years. Meaning…it isnt’ just TCKs who may show some arrogance - it is exhibited in many teenagers you meet who have never lived elsewhere (same town/county/state). Graduating high school seniors are often the most arrogant - which seems to be “normal” because that is the point (generally) in their character-building that says they are invincible, can conquer the world, can achieve anything and everything, etc., etc.

    So…I wonder…are we are spending too much time with introspection of our arrogance when in reality it exists all around us - and we just feel more sensitive about it?

    I have been called “arrogant”…because the person calling me that did not know me well enough: they didn’t know that, having spent most of my growing up years in boarding school, I had learned self dependence, learning to “do” things myself, being OK traveling alone, beingt a survivor, etc. In other words, I was more self-confident than I was arrogant. I was not in any way comparing myself, or feeling bigger/better…just had “no worries, Mate”.

    And yes, Kristina…I think you tagged it pretty well.

    Just my 2cents worth…

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    Arafat Says:
    August 1st, 2008 at 9:13 am

    Perceptions and points of view. It’s all relative. Being a TCK has made me more independent compared to my peers. I learned to detach myself and take care of myself early on. True i’ve paid the price emotionally and always believed that the heart is a lonely hunter.

    I come off as aloof but at the same time I’m extroverted and break the ice easily, which is odd because at times I can be shy. As we all know sometimes it’s hard to keep in touch with people cause you are so busy trying to get your life in order from all that moving. The aloofness has made a lot of people who don’t know me think I’m haughty and snobby.

    When I’ve spoken out against certain beliefs and ideas i was labeled too progressive and brash and told i was of poor breeding.

    I’ve come to understand that sometimes confidence can actually be intimidating to people around you when you first meet them. You just have to appear passive or low key to them and show that you’re merely passing through and not stealing their social circle. I usually do this by sticking close to people i know and scoping out the crowd. It’s hard… but it one way to avoid conflicts and being labeled an outcast. It’s good to let other people take the first step first and break the ice too. If you want to meet someone, get a friend to introduce you. Once both you and the people around you are comfortable with your presence, just be casual.

    Over the years I’ve gained a lot of respect from people. They’ve called me responsible and mature compared to my peers and time and again people have depended upon me. I believe it’s just us TCKs having to deal with more real life issues early on and hence trying to keep a cool head. Having talked to my friends who were TCKs like me we’ve come to understand that some find that being mature+not very experienced leads people to believe we are brash and overconfident of our abilities.

    People may perceive that I’m living life, enjoying it. If only they could see what a mess it really is, how could they? they never bothered to ask how i am…

    A lot of people have complained to my parents about me. It used to make them angry. Over the years they’ve come to understand that I had done the best I could and that I’m merely human. My uncles taught me the bit about handling new social situations.

    Don’t worry about how people perceive you. Sometimes it’s best people don’t understand you. That way people can’t predict your moves in a conflict situation :P

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