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Dealing with repatriation

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Five weeks ago, I left Australia, where I had been living and going to uni the past three years, to move back ‘home.’The first month was not so bad, but I think the last week it has really hit me…and I am starting to feel very frustrated and very depressed. Adding to the usual issues of trying to adjust to moving again and starting a whole new life, I’m trying to search for a job, which as a recent graduate, is bloody hard. On top of that, my parents have just opened a new business so they are extremely busy and I hardly see them, my younger brother has gone off to university overseas (and I desperately miss him- he’s my TCK buddy and understands me when I get like this) and the friends I have here are really more like acquaintances, which makes me long for my Aussie friends who were like my second family.I tried to open up to my mother but she just told me to “stop feeling sorry for myself” and to “put myself out there.” I wish it were that easy. I can feel myself starting to spiral into depression, and it’s stronger than I have ever felt before. I think now that I have finished university, I am faced with the question of what on earth to do with the rest of my life, and I’m so incredibly overwhelmed…I wasn’t expecting the move to be easy, but I wasn’t expecting it to be this hard either. So I was wondering how you fellow TCKs deal with/ have dealt with repatriation?    


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August 7, 2008 | Filed Under General Forum 

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2 Responses to “Dealing with repatriation”

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    Ayako
    Ayako Says:
    August 8th, 2008 at 12:57 am

    Graduation is a depressing time for many (probably even more so for TCKs), but you’ve got to get your act together and land on the right job at this critical time in your career or end-up messing up the rest of your life, depending on what country you’ve repatriated to.

    They’re kinder about mistakes made during this period in some countries than others. ;)

    Which country have you repatriated to anyway?

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    mmmmmm
    mmmmmm Says:
    August 8th, 2008 at 3:58 pm

    First of all same question as ayako, which country did u repatriate to?

    Second… Yeh i know I keep on giving this advice which sounds not so friendly but don’t bother opening up to parents!!! cuz they just dunt get it. and reli i’ve found the only way to deal with parent making you feel worse is to just NOT let it get you and make you even more depressed. cuz honestly i always say without parents making me feel even worse already makes a huge difference in my depression issues. Lol cuz in the end…even though i am totally reluctant to admit, but it’s not their fault tat they make us feel worse. and I totally just said tat because i am in a good mood right now. LOL

    sigh and ergh…i tend to not expect anything at all cuz I noe life as a TCK is hella unpredicatable anyways. except i get shocks anyways. it wud be inhumane not to. and the truth is we alwyas get extremely depressed when faced with departure. In fact, a lot more than non-TCKs because they don’t get attached to a place as easily as we do. I’ve come to the point that leaving a place i’ve only lived in for 2 weeks can break me mentally for about at least a week.

    but we get used to it… because for me, when these post travel depression dawn on me, the best way me to get out of it is to think…hey, feel special about yourself. The reason you are the only one feeling this way is because you are a TCK! And tat means, you are the one who was more attached to tat place than any other tourist because you felt sumthing and they didnt, you got tat wonderful experience and they didnt, you know love and they don’t. You are deeply involved with another whole new world that they dont even noe about!
    when I think about all that…i am just like…yep it’s all worth it and tat puts a huge smile on my face.

    It’s better to have something and lose it then never having it at all…and for us, we dont actually lose anything because we keep the memory and attachment forever =D

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