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2008-07-26 21:01:15
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ANY TCKs IN ISRAEL???

Hi! I wanted to see if there are any TCK’s in Israel or are going to be traveling to Israel. I would love to start a group here but need to find the people!!!

Let me know if any of you are from around these parts………

Shannon

July 29, 2008 | Filed Under Meetup | 1 Comment 

Cognitive Dissonance: How have you dealt with loneliness and being understood in a meaningful way?

Hi, my name is Shannon and I am new to this forum. I’m 28, have a Japanese father, American mum grew up part of the time in Japan, then all over America, then Singapore, then the Philippines and now I live in Israel though I am not Jewish. I find that in the last few years I have had the worst time with cognitive dissonance. This split within myself where I don’t really know anything anymore except that I do not fit anywhere. It is incredibly lonely. I feel too old for my age, I feel like I don’t fit into a “religious cultural pattern” I feel like I will never find anyone that simply understands a need to be KNOWN. Most cultures and countries are so based in history, tradition, culture and FAMILY. People have frames they exist in. Each culture has their frame of what is “normal” and what is “not normal”. People share a collective memory to some extent, of childhood games, or childhood experiences and memories, of TV shows, of rites of passage that I don’t share. You can speak the language, and even get the accent perfect, but it doesn’t mean you are a true part of anything. It is the worst on holidays. When everyone goes to their families, and you find yourself alone, or borrowing someone elses tradition and life…….can anyone in this forum speak about this? About how others have coped, how others here have dealt with loneliness and being understood in a meaningful way? How to figure ones-self out and pull all the pieces that feel like they are splitting and not making sense together inside?

July 26, 2008 | Filed Under General Forum, Introduction | 10 Comments