Hi – I`ve just found this website and I`d be grateful to read other 3rd culture kid`s stories. I`m really lost. I have travelled a lot in my life and enjoyed aspects of every country I`ve lived in. I`ve now reached the age where I cannot afford to keep moving as I want to establish hobbies and make friends and to start working towards buying a home. The trouble is I just don`t know where on earth to live. I have no country that I call ¨home¨. My parents emigrated to New Zealand but I hated growing up there. I miss obviously lots of things about New Zealand but I cannot bear the thought of going back there to live. I`ve tried several times whilst my parents were alive but now that they are dead I do not feel NZ is home.I like Australia because it is on the whole a positive thinking country, the people have this ¨can do¨ attitude that I like, rather like the Americans but without the big city problems that country has. I also like the climate as I love the heat – I was born and grew up in Malaya.But I miss art galleries, museums, castles, historical places that England can offer. Yet the climate in England is so awful and so many of the towns are depressing and the English mentality is not very positive. The country is very expensive to live in and the pay is very poor as well and since I have lurched from country to country on my secretarial skills, I do not have a grand career to fall back on. I feel very lost and useless. I have a University degree majoring in American Studies – I got very high grades so I know I`m intelligent, I`ve got a Diploma in Professional Photography and yet I feel I don`t know enough about the internet and business and marketing on the internet and I don`t have the confidence or know how to get out there and be self-employed. I have had terrible anxiety throughout my life and this has crippled me and my efforts to change and get on with getting a decent job.I just wish I knew which country to try for.I`ve tried counselling but it seemed to me they all trained up at the same school and no-one had any idea how to help a 3rd Culture Kid. I was made to feel even more alienated and estranged from my poor parents who tried their best to help so I even felt the counsellors were blaming my poor parents and I felt I`d even lost that lifeline.it is a dilemma and I`m so thoroughly sick of it.It was a relief to find the website that there are other 3rd culture kids and that their experiences have been just like mine. Has anyone out there been through this decision-making dilemma as to where to actually stay put and try and make a life? can you offer me any insights?

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