A fish who’s found her water!
I’ve just read some of the introductions here and I am just as dumbstruck as you guys are at finding out a mere 3 hours ago that my freakishness actually has an explanation. It turns out there is a term “TCK” to explain why I am a quadrilingual, 38-yr-old mom/photographer/athlete/writer/volunteer/teacher who feels stuck in suburban Connecticut among people who simply don’t “get me.” Now I know why I find most people to be closed-minded, unmotivated, complacent in their inertia, lacking in curiosity, unable to accept that we are truly one, no matter our geographical location, place in life, religion, ethnicity, background. I now know why my year in therapy was an utter waste. Note to self: hire a TCK therapist next time! Why I have this insatiable, uncontrollable need to connect to people on a deep level, and small talk is a complete waste of my time. Now I know why despite being an extremely outgoing person, I absolutely love my time alone. Now I now know why I spend most of my time among others feeling like a fish out of water. Tomorrow is my 39th birthday and I just got the best gift of all: I just made a huge leap in discovering my identity.
Susanne Hobson Navas
I was born in Brussels to a Swedish mom & English dad. We moved to the US (NJ) when I was 4, then to Mexico City when I was 7. When I was 17 we moved back to NJ. Since then, I've lived in NJ, France, Washington DC, Atlanta, and now I'm in a Connecticut suburb. A fish out of water.Related Posts
5 Comments to “A fish who’s found her water!”
October 24th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
I hate small talk too. Glad everything is making sense for you as well. Happy early birthday!
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October 24th, 2008 at 11:05 pm
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
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October 26th, 2008 at 11:14 am
You probably travelled a lot in your life, but you better be ready for the journey you are going to embark on now that you have a name for what you are or what it is. It threw me into inner turmoil a few weeks ago, identity crisis once more, but this time based on evidence. Things become soooo much clearer (and here I thought I was seeing things clear all along, haha). Happy Birthday! Good to see some other ATCK’s here…
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October 26th, 2008 at 2:18 pm
wow trimama!
What a great Birthday present, isn’t it?!!!
It’s so good when we find out about it and suddenly our whole lives and thoughts make sense!
We’re glad to have you here!
A little late, but: Happy Birthday! Our lolcat can’t wait to eat the cake:
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October 26th, 2008 at 4:41 pm
Aw, honey!
I am SO sorry to hear you had to wait SUCH a long time to find out!! I was in my early thirties when I first discovered my TCK identity, and I, like you, had already spent years believing that I was mentally ill. What a relief it was, to find out I am actually perfectly normal for my tribe — just as you are.
WELCOME HOME!
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