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(Vote) Does The Pain of Rejection and Not Belonging Make You Stronger or Damage You? (ABC Interview on Third Culture Kids)

Do you think the pain of rejection and not belonging make you stronger or damage you?

Personally, it made me stronger and the challenges became a positive blessing. I explain why below.

Listen to our interview with ABC News on TCKID. Ruth Van Reken, Daniela Tudor and I discuss the benefits and the health challenges of being culturally mixed:

http://www.abc.net.au/rn/lifematters/stories/2009/2583257.htm

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The reason I ask is because as you may already know, I struggled to find a sense of belonging.

I thought I was weird and there was something wrong with me.

Several years ago, I got a surprise from the doctor: a diagnosis of a terminal disease. The doctors told me, then I was 19 year old man preparing for university, that there was no cure or explanation.

For several years, I couldn’t write, shower myself, or even hold a glass of water. But worst of all, I was isolated and had no purpose in life.

However, my life was turned around when I discovered that the emotional stress had caused the physical pain.

According to research, emotions can cause years of chronic pain and physical disability.

Did you know that your emotions can weaken your immune system and make it more vulnerable to disease?

One day, after releasing those emotions, I was completely healed. I couldn’t believe it, I was completely healed in one day!

After being healed, I made a promise to myself to relieve people from pain and give them a sense of belonging regardless of their culture, race, or color of their skin.

The pain became a blessing. TCKID wouldn’t exist today if it wasn’t for this challenge.

Maybe your emotional pain didn’t give you a physical illness.

Maybe you have relationship pain, and you’re struggling to connect and belong anywhere. Maybe it’s the pain of restlessness, and you just keep moving or pushing people away. We all have experienced emotional pain, but…

Is it a curse or a blessing?

For me, it was a positive blessing. :-)

What are your thoughts?

Talk soon,
Brice

Barack Obama, who spent his childhood in Indonesia and Hawaii, writes:: “I used drugs and alcohol to push questions of who I was out of my mind.” (…) “What I needed was a community, I realized, a community that cut deeper than the common despair that black friends and I shared when reading the latest crime statistics.” Barack Obama’s Third Culture Kid Team | List of Famous TCKs

Recommended Reading on Emotions and your health:

How Emotions Affect Your Health- Family Doctor

Emotional Pain Hurts More than Physical Pain - Telegraph

The Mind and Body Connection - Science Daily

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(News & Vote) Oprah may finally talk about Military families (Army Brats/TCKs)

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Oprah wants to hear your story.

I just heard from my friend Donna Musil, the director of the film BRATS: Our Journey Home, that Oprah may finally be talking about military families — and hopefully, their children – to discuss and share advice on how to cope with repatriation.

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From the Oprah website:

Have Advice for Military Families?
Are you a military family coping with someone serving overseas? Have you or a loved one just returned home from a tour of duty? What got you through a long deployment? Share the best advice you’ve received to help other families in similar situations
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Obama succeeded, so? Then means some of us are “failures”?

I know that Obama WOW, yeah, succeeded.

I don’t mean the politics part but his TCK part

He didn’t fit in in the States when younger, however, now his ppl want him to be their leader

I don’t overlook his success (again, here I mean he overcoming his TCKness and be accepted by his HOME COUNTRY PPL. (not ppl from other countries, I emphazise “ppl from his HOME COUNTRY”)

So… if he is our “role model” then does it mean that we “failed” (?) not to chose that path?!

What if some of us “still don’t ever feel confortable in our ‘home country’ “???

Should we even “feel guilty” about it?!

Does it matter so much… to never fit in ur parents’ country ever again?!?!

What’s the big deal?

Do some of u guys… refuse to fit in ur “home country”, I have to emphazise: DESPITE YOU KNOW WELL THAT YOU “ARE” DISCRIMINATED IN OTHER FOREIGNER COUNTRIES. Despite of knowing that some “foreigners” (ppl not from ur parents’ country) may still discriminate you. Despite of this, u still prefer foreign countries over ur parents’ country? Bc u know ur thoughts is more similar as them? Bc u just have to find ppl who don’t discriminate u for being a “foreigner”? And u find it easier than living in ur parents’ country?

Please share cases!!!

THX!

Is there a UNWRITEN standard of being successful about ur own TCKness? Like, u have to “reconcile” with ur parents’ country? Like, is it “sth”? Do u care?

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To parents of TCKs or TCKs who care

I am the dad of three TCKs. I work with UNICEF and as a family we have lived outside the US for the past 8 years…my oldest was almost 3 when we left America for Africa and now we live in Southeast Europe. (I have lived overseas for 23 of my 45 years on the earth–but never as a kid)) I see alot of negative postings about TCKs and some are scary to me as a parent of 3 TCKs. I know it is hard for the kids and my wife to follow me where the work leads us–we try to pick cool places to live and to stay for 4 or 5 year blocks rather than every 2 years. International life is not all an adventure, however, life in the US may be stable (alhtough NOT now) it certainly does not engender the global values I hope my kids are living and experiencing and will put into practise as adults. When I compare my kids to typical American kids I see them: smarter, more mature, more street smart, less barinwashed by mass media and junk culture…in a sense they are preparing for a life where they can make a difference…not just be fat american consumers in over their ears in debt and hyper shopping. Am I wrong to pursue this? Do the down sides–the restlessness, belong—are these only for TCKs or can all kids have these feelings in today’s world? I can only move forward trying to make the best possible life for my kids as TCKs. Hye, Obama’s main advisors are all TCKs and he is too–there are worse things in life? You could be a fat moron in a trailor court in Illinois playing NINTENDO all day and looking at porn.

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Another ATCK in Obama Administration

Charles Freeman, Jr., ATCK and polyglot, has been named the chair of the U. S. National Intelligence Council. According to Wikipedia, he was born in the U.S., raised in the Bahamas, then repatriated at age 13. He is the president of the Middle East Policy Council and was the U.S. Ambassador to Saudi Arabia from 1989-1992.

Bloggers say neo-cons put up a heck of a fight, but that Obama gave them no consideration.

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Translating our multiple selves

‘And so there lay my political dilemma: a clash of cultures. Being a good Pakistani son, while remaining an accepted and integrated citizen in the angraiz culture, is like engineering peace between Hitler’s Germany and Churchill’s Europe. I chose to be Neville Chamberlain and run away from the matter.’

Excerpted from Melting the polar ice, The Friday Times, December 26, 2005

‘The journey back home was filled with Jenn’s unhelpful venting. She endlessly criticised “Pakistani men” as she cited example after example of men on the street propositioning her or masturbating when she was alone on public transportation. However, she apologised for me, explaining that since I had been raised in Britain I was educated, and that her African friends were surprised that I was a Pakistani man because I was “gentle” and “respectful”. Rather than rebut her condescending statements, I half-welcomed being disassociated from the label “Pakistani man.”‘

Excerpted from What is a Pakistani man?, The Friday Times, August 11, 2006

‘Cricket – the tangible medium of cultural cleavages – had [ . . . ] given a voice to the Pakistanis of Britain: that self effacing, inclusive voice on Goodness Gracious Me evolved into an unabashed, exclusive voice of ‘Paki pride.’ Our fellow citizens were disturbed. A schism of “us” and “them” had developed, but for a British Pakistani who’d never felt English and had been disowned as a Pakistani, I was glad that there was finally an “us”.’

Excerpted from Playing to the homesick crowd, The Friday Times, March 24, 2006

Salman Rushdie:

‘I was very struck by a curious fact I discovered which showed me something about the reason why my writing, or perhaps one reason why my writing had fallen towards this metaphorical, imaginative kind of writing, which is that if you look etymologically at the meaning of the word ‘metaphor’ and the word ‘translation’ it turns out they mean the same thing.

Translation, from the Latin, means ‘to carry across.’ Metaphor, from the Greek, means ‘to carry across.’ So again this comes back to my preoccupation with the idea of migration. People are also carried across, you see; they’re carried physically from one place to another and I formed the idea that the act of migration was to turn people somehow into things, into people who had been translated, who had, so to speak, entered the condition of metaphor, and that their instinctive way of looking at the world was in that more metaphorical, imagistic manner.

If you consider where your sense of self has always been located—in the idea of roots, the idea of coming from a place, the idea of inhabiting a kind of language which you have in common and the kind of social convention within which you live—what happens to the migrants is that they lose all three. They lose the place. They lose the language and they lose the social conventions and they find themselves in a new place with a new language—and so they have to reinvent the sense of the self. This is, after all, the century of the migrant as well as the century of the Bomb; there have never been so many people who ended up elsewhere than where they began, whether by choice or by necessity. And so perhaps that’s the source from which this kind of reconstruction can begin. People who are no longer caught in the old definition of the self, but capable of making new ones.

Excerpted from Imaginary Homelands

Zadie Smith:

‘In Dreams from My Father, the new president displays an enviable facility for dialogue, and puts it to good use [ . . . ] I have to pinch myself to remember who wrote the following well-observed scene, seemingly plucked from a comic novel:

“Man, I’m not going to any more of these bullshit Punahou parties.”

“Yeah, that’s what you said the last time….”

“I mean it this time…. These girls are A-1, USDA-certified racists. All of ‘em. White girls. Asian girls—shoot, these Asians worse than the whites. Think we got a disease or something.”

“Maybe they’re looking at that big butt of yours. Man, I thought you were in training.”

“Get your hands out of my fries. You ain’t my bitch, nigger…buy your own damn fries. Now what was I talking about?”

“Just ’cause a girl don’t go out with you doesn’t make her a racist.”

This is the voice of Obama at seventeen, as remembered by Obama. He’s still recognizably Obama; he already seeks to unpack and complicate apparently obvious things (“Just ’cause a girl don’t go out with you doesn’t make her a racist”); he’s already gently cynical about the impassioned dogma of other people (“Yeah, that’s what you said the last time”). And he has a sense of humor (“Maybe they’re looking at that big butt of yours”). Only the voice is different: he has made almost as large a leap as Eliza Doolittle. The conclusions Obama draws from his own Pygmalion experience, however, are subtler than Shaw’s. The tale he tells is not the old tragedy of gaining a new, false voice at the expense of a true one. The tale he tells is all about addition. His is the story of a genuinely many-voiced man. If it has a moral it is that each man must be true to his selves, plural.

For Obama, having more than one voice in your ear is not a burden, or not solely a burden—it is also a gift. And the gift is of an interesting kind, not well served by that dull publishing-house title Dreams from My Father: A Story of Race and Inheritance with its suggestion of a simple linear inheritance, of paternal dreams and aspirations passed down to a son, and fulfilled. Dreams from My Father would have been a fine title for John McCain’s book Faith of My Fathers, which concerns exactly this kind of linear masculine inheritance [ . . .] Obama [ . . . ] corrects its misperception early on, in the first chapter, while discussing the failure of his parents’ relationship, characterized by their only son as the end of a dream. “Even as that spell was broken,” he writes, “and the worlds that they thought they’d left behind reclaimed each of them, I occupied the place where their dreams had been.”

To occupy a dream, to exist in a dreamed space (conjured by both father and mother), is surely a quite different thing from simply inheriting a dream. [ . . . ]

But I haven’t described Dream City. I’ll try to. It is a place of many voices, where the unified singular self is an illusion. Naturally, Obama was born there. So was I. When your personal multiplicity is printed on your face, in an almost too obviously thematic manner, in your DNA, in your hair and in the neither this nor that beige of your skin—well, anyone can see you come from Dream City. In Dream City everything is doubled, everything is various. You have no choice but to cross borders and speak in tongues. That’s how you get from your mother to your father, from talking to one set of folks who think you’re not black enough to another who figure you insufficiently white. It’s the kind of town where the wise man says “I” cautiously, because “I” feels like too straight and singular a phoneme to represent the true multiplicity of his experience. Instead, citizens of Dream City prefer to use the collective pronoun “we.”

Throughout his campaign Obama was careful always to say we. He was noticeably wary of “I.” By speaking so, he wasn’t simply avoiding a singularity he didn’t feel, he was also drawing us in with him. He had the audacity to suggest that, even if you can’t see it stamped on their faces, most people come from Dream City, too. Most of us have complicated back stories, messy histories, multiple narratives.

It was a high-wire strategy, for Obama, this invocation of our collective human messiness. His enemies latched on to its imprecision, emphasizing the exotic, un-American nature of Dream City, this ill-defined place where you could be from Hawaii and Kenya, Kansas and Indonesia all at the same time, where you could jive talk like a street hustler and orate like a senator. What kind of a crazy place is that? But they underestimated how many people come from Dream City, how many Americans, in their daily lives, conjure contrasting voices and seek a synthesis between disparate things. Turns out, Dream City wasn’t so strange to them.

Or did they never actually see it? We now know that Obama spoke of Main Street in Iowa and of sweet potato pie in Northwest Philly, and it could be argued that he succeeded because he so rarely misspoke, carefully tailoring his intonations to suit the sensibility of his listeners. [ . . . ] The balance was perfect, cunningly counterpoised and never accidental. [ . . . ]

Which brings us to the single-voiced Obamanation crowd. They rage on in the blogs and on the radio, waiting obsessively for the mask to slip. They have a great fear of what they see as Obama’s doubling ways. “He says one thing but he means another”—this is the essence of the fear campaign. He says he’s a capitalist, but he’ll spread your wealth. He says he’s a Christian, but really he’s going to empower the Muslims. And so on and so forth. These are fears that have their roots in an anxiety about voice. Who is he? people kept asking. I mean, who is this guy, really? He says sweet potato pie in Philly and Main Street in Iowa! When he talks to us, he sure sounds like us—but behind our backs he says we’re clinging to our religion, to our guns. And when Jesse Jackson heard that Obama had lectured a black church congregation about the epidemic of absent black fathers, he experienced this, too, as a tonal betrayal; Obama was “talking down to black people.” In both cases, there was the sense of a double-dealer, of someone who tailors his speech to fit the audience, who is not of the people (because he is able to look at them objectively) but always above them.

[ . . . ] Right up to the wire, Obama made many black men and women of Jackson’s generation suspicious. How can the man who passes between culturally black and white voices with such flexibility, with such ease, be an honest man? How will the man from Dream City keep it real? Why won’t he speak with a clear and unified voice? These were genuine questions for people born in real cities at a time when those cities were implacably divided, when the black movement had to yell with a clear and unified voice, or risk not being heard at all. And then he won. Watching Jesse Jackson in tears in Grant Park, pressed up against the varicolored American public, it seemed like he, at least, had received the answer he needed: only a many-voiced man could have spoken to that many people.

A clear and unified voice. In that context, this business of being biracial, of being half black and half white, is awkward. In his memoir, Obama takes care to ridicule a certain black girl called Joyce—a composite figure from his college days who happens also to be part Italian and part French and part Native American and is inordinately fond of mentioning these facts, and who likes to say:

I’m not black…I’m multiracial…. Why should I have to choose between them?… It’s not white people who are making me choose…. No—it’s black people who always have to make everything racial. They’re the ones making me choose. They’re the ones who are telling me I can’t be who I am….

He has her voice down pat and so condemns her out of her own mouth. For she’s the third bogeyman of black life, the tragic mulatto, who secretly wishes she “passed,” always keen to let you know about her white heritage. It’s the fear of being mistaken for Joyce that has always ensured that I ignore the box marked “biracial” and tick the box marked “black” on any questionnaire I fill out, and call myself unequivocally a black writer and roll my eyes at anyone who insists that Obama is not the first black president but the first biracial one. But I also know in my heart that it’s an equivocation; I know that Obama has a double consciousness, is black and, at the same time, white, as I am, unless we are suggesting that one side of a person’s genetics and cultural heritage cancels out or trumps the other.

But to mention the double is to suggest shame at the singular. Joyce insists on her varied heritage because she fears and is ashamed of the singular black. [ . . . ]

It’s telling that Joyce is one of the few voices in Dreams from My Father that is truly left out in the cold, outside of the expansive sympathy of Obama’s narrative. She is an entirely didactic being, a demon Obama has to raise up, if only for a page, so everyone can watch him slay her. [ . . . ] It’s the Joyces of this world who “talk down to black folks.” And so to avoid being Joyce, or being seen to be Joyce, you unify, you speak with one voice.

And the concept of a unified black voice is a potent one. [ . . . ] There was a popular school of thought that maintained the voice was at the very heart of the thing; fail to keep it real there and you’d never see your Blackness again.

How absurd that all seems now. And not because we live in a postracial world—we don’t—but because the reality of race has diversified. Black reality has diversified. [ . . . ] It’s black conservatives and black liberals, black sportsmen and black lawyers [ . . . ] We’re all black, and we all love to be black, and we all sing from our own hymn sheet. We’re all surely black people, but we may be finally approaching a point of human history where you can’t talk up or down to us anymore, but only to us. He’s talking down to white people —how curious it sounds the other way round! In order to say such a thing one would have to think collectively of white people, as a people of one mind who speak with one voice—a thought experiment in which we have no practice. But it’s worth trying. It’s only when you play the record backward that you hear the secret message.’

Excerpted from Speaking in Tongues, The New York Review of Books, February 26, 2009

Yacine Kateb:

‘In our Arabic tradition, there are some poets who have refuted even the message of the Prophet. People believe them to be proud, but it is not true. It is a matter rather of a total confidence in the word as word and the refusal to become domesticated. There is the true poet. He is someone who does not claim to make of his word something that domesticates men and that teaches them to live, but on the contrary someone who brings them a freedom, a freedom often uncomfortable moreover. I believe that the true message of the poet lies in this. It is not the fact of saying to the people that you must do this or you must do that; it is precisely to break all the frames that have been placed around them so that they might bound back.’ (“Role de l’écrivain” 179-80)

Quoted in John D. Erickson’s ‘Kateb Yacine’s Nedjma: A Dialogue of Difference’

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Nation’s Many Faces in Extended First Family (Obamamania…)

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/21/us/politics/21family.html?_r=1

From today’s New York Times:

WASHINGTON — The president’s elderly stepgrandmother brought him an oxtail fly whisk, a mark of power at home in Kenya. Cousins journeyed from the South Carolina town where the first lady’s great-great-grandfather was born into slavery, while the rabbi in the family came from the synagogue where he had been commemorating Martin Luther King‘s Birthday. The president and first lady’s siblings were there, too, of course: his Indonesian-American half-sister, who brought her Chinese-Canadian husband, and her brother, a black man with a white wife.

One reason so many TCKs do end up in the USA, though most often on the coasts and major cities, is this multi-ethnic, multi-cultural and multi-racial aspect of the culture. America is changing rapidly, no longer the exclusive (power) domain of any one race, and I, for one, am elated. This week has had me in happy tears.

I especially loved the benediction by the Rev. Joseph Lowery, a man who walked every step of the painful way with Dr. Martin Luther King. He opened with a verse from “Lift Every Voice and Sing”, the Black National Anthem, from a poem by James Weldon Johnson, quoted from Dr. Martin Luther King’s “I Have A Dream” speech when he said:

“Help us then, now, Lord, to work for that day when nation shall not lift up sword against nation, when tanks will be beaten into tractors, when every man and every woman shall sit under his or her own vine and fig tree, and none shall be afraid; when justice will roll down like waters and righteousness as a mighty stream.”

and closed with a salute to the Civil Rights Movement of the sixties, of which he was an important part:

“in the joy of a new beginning, we ask you to help us work for that day when black will not be asked to get back, when brown can stick around — (laughter) — when yellow will be mellow — (laughter) — when the red man can get ahead, man — (laughter) — and when white will embrace what is right.”

A full text of the Benediction can be seen here: http://blog.beliefnet.com/stevenwaldman/2009/01/rev-lowery-inauguration-benedi.html

A full text of the Black National Anthem can be seen here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lift_Every_Voice_and_Sing

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Maira’s Blog – Obama is an example of HOPE for all TCKs

(I know this site is already flooded with Obama posts (right Brice?), so I’ll try to be quick)

I’m not very interested in politics, but I was glad I watched Obama’s speech on the inauguration day at CNN. Because I realised what a GREAT person he is, and what a great ACCOMPLISHMENT he’s made.

We all know he is a TCK. So have you ever thought about this: HE IS THE PRESIDENT OF HIS “HOME” COUNTRY.

Wow. We all know how hard it is for us TCKs to live in our “home” countries. And yet this man was able to OVERCOME all (or most) of his issues, and become president. (I haven’t read his biography but I’m sure it wasn’t easy). It’s such an important achievement, because it means that the people from his “home” country want HIM to lead THEM. Have you ever thought about it this way?

My goals are so much smaller here in my “home” country. I just want to feel loved and accepted by them. And to a certain extent, I have already achieved that (at least within a small subgroup of people that live here). And that is already so much more than I had ever dreamed of (I you read my old posts you’ll know that I grew up pretty hopeless with regards to feeling understood and accepted).

I don’t want to be the president of Brazil. I can’t even concive that in my mind because I still feel so rejected by them. I still feel like “nah, they would never want that”.

But Obama believed in himself. He overcame all these challenges (that I still haven’t been able to overcome). He is loved and admired by the people from his “home” country (in a way that I would never even dream of). Wow.

So this is the lesson that I take from him. His “Yes we CAN”, means to me that “Yes, we TCKs CAN overcome our issues and become someone GREAT” and that “Yes, we TCKs CAN overcome our issues and be loved, accepted and admired by the people of our “home” countries”.

Believe in yourselves!

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Obama’s “Team of Expatriates”

http://www.newsweek.com/id/180207/page/1

A Team of Expatriates

Many of Obama’s top advisers, like an increasing number of Americans, have learned and lived abroad.

By Jeffrey Bartholet and Daniel Stone | NEWSWEEK

Published Jan 17, 2009

From the magazine issue dated Jan 26, 2009

II. The fact that Valerie Jarrett spent her early childhood in Iran made it easier to bond with Barack Obama. The subject came up the first time the two met, at a restaurant in the Loop area of downtown Chicago in 1991. Obama had grown up overseas—spending four years in Indonesia as a boy—and Jarrett was born in the ancient city of Shiraz, where her American father, a medical doctor, helped found the city’s first modern hospital. Valerie’s early languages were Farsi, French and “a little bit of English.” To this day, her favorite foods include lamb and rice with Persian spices. “If I walk into a house and I smell saffron, I’m happy,” she says.

In that first encounter, Jarrett recalls discussing with Obama how their years overseas helped shape their world views. “I guess the most basic way is by being around people who have such a broad diversity of backgrounds,” she says.

For Jarrett’s family, who traveled extensively even after they returned to the United States when Valerie was six, that meant socializing with people from Europe, the Middle East, Africa and Latin America. “You appreciate and are maybe more open to different perspectives,” she says.

It’s a common point among Obama’s top aides, a surprising number of whom grew up in other countries—the insight they developed by seeing America from the outside in. The former expats include retired Marine Gen. James L. Jones, the incoming national-security adviser, who lived in France for most of his childhood; Timothy Geithner, the nominee for Treasury secretary, who grew up in Zimbabwe, India and Thailand; retired Maj. Gen. J. Scott Gration, a child of missionaries in Africa who is a leading contender to become the new NASA administrator; and Jarrett, a close personal friend of the Obamas’ who will serve as a top domestic-policy adviser.

Obama has identified his years in Indonesia, and later travels in Pakistan, as critical to shaping his views on America’s role in the world. “If you don’t understand these cultures, then it’s very hard for you to make good foreign-policy decisions,” he told an Iowa campaign crowd in 2007. “The benefit of my life of having both lived overseas and traveled overseas … is I have a better sense of how they’re thinking and what their society is really like.”

Most of the world doesn’t associate that kind of understanding with Americans, and with some reason. Even now, only about 22 percent of Americans have passports, while in many Western European countries the number is much higher—reaching 71 percent in the United Kingdom. But as the world shrinks, the numbers of Americans working and studying outside of the country is rising. In 2006-07, more than 241,000 Americans studied abroad, up from less than 100,000 who did so a decade earlier. The State Department estimates that more than 5 million Americans live overseas. For the generation of Americans coming of age now, some of the most significant opportunities—for work, investment, recreation and learning—will be global.

Gration left America in 1952, when he boarded a ship called the African Lightning and steamed out of New York harbor at the age of about 18 months. His parents were missionaries with the Africa Inland Mission. They were heading to the Kenyan port of Mombasa, and then inland by car to the Congo. Three times the family had to flee the Congo—after independence and a military coup in 1960, after the execution of Prime Minister Patrice Lumumba in 1961 and lastly during civil war in 1964. The family lost everything then, and settled in Kenya before returning to the United States in 1967. “You spend some time [in a country] and all of a sudden you can’t stay in your house because the rebels are coming,” says Gration. “Life itself is a gift and now you realize that freedom and life, those things we [Americans] take for granted, those values you can’t put your arms around, are so precious and worth dying for.”

Gration first met Obama when he was serving as director of Strategy, Plans and Policy for the European Command. In that capacity, he briefed then Senator Obama on foreign affairs, and later joined him on a trip to Africa in 2006. Last year, Gration left the Republican Party to vote for Obama in the New Jersey primary. He was attracted by Obama’s interest in issues “that are borderless”: the environment, trade, energy, human rights. “When you grow up as I did, surrounded by Africans, you see them as individuals—the kids I grew up with, the kids I played soccer with, [the people with whom] I went and ate around the fires,” says Gration. “These were my African buddies, and so for me, when I see the strife in Darfur and when I see what’s happening in eastern Congo, it’s not just a problem. It’s people.”

Expats also learn, in a personal way, the resentments that foreigners sometimes feel toward the United States. Growing up in France after World War II, the future General Jones went to local schools outside of Paris, then to a NATO school. “In postwar France there was a lot of anti-American sentiment because of the number of bases we had and the heavy footprint we showed.”

As a child and a teen, Jones would return to Missouri for two-week stints every few years, and he yearned for the kind of life where he could play baseball instead of soccer and fencing. But he also recalls watching footage of the civil-rights movement—the marches, the struggle for school integration in Little Rock, the atrocities of the Ku Klux Klan—on French television. “It was absolutely just a surreal experience for me,” he says. He was very proud to be American, yet also shocked and confused by what he was watching.

Relatives in the United States sent Jones care packages—blue jeans and other American-style clothes. When he rode the French buses, the locals thought he was a tourist. “What they didn’t know was that I understood everything they were saying,” he says. “It wasn’t always very flattering.” One morning, his father woke up to find U.S. GO HOME splashed in white paint on his black Chevrolet Bel Air. At other times, tensions resulted in conflict. ” I got in more fights as a kid as a result of nationality than any other reason.”

But Jones grew fond of France, and he also had classmates from Germany, Spain and other NATO countries. That proved useful when he became Supreme Allied Commander in Europe years later. “You develop a fine ear for listening to nuance, and to what it is people are saying, but also how they are saying it,” he says. “You have to be able to look at the same problem through different prisms to be … successful in the international environment.”

Now Jones encourages young people to go out and see other countries and cultures. Anyone who has the opportunity and doesn’t seize it “is really missing out on one of the most important components of how to be successful in today’s shrinking world,” he says. “And if you’re going to hold national office, I think it’s an imperative.” Obama would surely agree.

With Richard Wolffe and Dina Fine Maron in Washington

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A Team of Expatriates

http://www.newsweek.com/id/180207/page/1

Many of Obama’s top advisers, like an increasing number of Americans, have learned and lived abroad.

The fact that Valerie Jarrett spent her early childhood in Iran made it easier to bond with Barack Obama. … It’s a common point among Obama’s top aides, a surprising number of whom grew up in other countries—the insight they developed by seeing America from the outside in. The former expats include retired Marine Gen. James L. Jones, the incoming national-security adviser, who lived in France for most of his childhood; Timothy Geithner, the nominee for Treasury secretary, who grew up in Zimbabwe, India and Thailand; retired Maj. Gen. J. Scott Gration, a child of missionaries in Africa who is a leading contender to become the new NASA administrator; and Jarrett, a close personal friend of the Obamas’ who will serve as a top domestic-policy adviser.

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